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Week 5 “actions”, The Dressed Rehearsal Before Opening Night.

Dwight L.Carter Sr.

If our thoughts are our actions in rehearsal then words are our actions in dressed rehearsal before opening night.  Webster defines Action as: an act of will, the manner or method of performing.

Life is a performance, all of life is lived and in essence choreographed by our thoughts, by what we say and then played out by our actions. To further our path in life these foundational behaviors result in the habits we maintain and then the character we build culminating in our all-encompassing destiny. 

Dwight L. Carter Sr.  My path to action!

  • Cultivate a desire to make a difference. It starts with purpose, that inner need to contribute. It’s actually in all of us, by design.
  • Produce an environment that supports you and your vision. Let go of those people places and things that do not support you. You already know who and what’s on that list. It been nagging at you for years now is the time to break free.
  • Provide information for yourself in regards to getting results. The greatest source of action and influence in your life is the books you  read and the people you meet.
  • Get involved with people & organizations who support&create the environment, vision, & result you are committed to. Like-minded people support and drive each other. Enough is enough being social doesn’t always support “YOU”. Following the same old crowd is debilitating to your calling and your personal vision.
  • Structure your thought life to your vision.  I cant express this enough, your thoughts and what you do with them shapes your day, your week, your month, your year, your L.I.F.E.
  • Speak your vision. Stand up and step forward, there is no one just like you. All of us need to hear your voice and your expression of encouragement and leadership for the rest of us. No one person has all of the pieces of the plan. Each of us have our part to share and teach to others.
  • Take action in faith. Never see the small steps as unimportant. If only for today tell yourself you can do this. Trust that knowing-ness given to you at birth. That still small voice that teaches you and instructs you. Listen to it you know the masters voice.

Dr. Enaka Yembe is a Physician, and the founder of American Stat-Care centers who was able to open her first clinic from her sick bed in 2006 and grow it to a 7-figure company.

5 steps to taking action:

1.Have faith in your abilities. Each of us was born with the God-given ability to be successful. Hold fast to this thought, especially during moments of indecision.

2. Face your fears. What’s holding you back? Examine your fears closely and work on overcoming them. Is the fear rational, in reaction to real danger? Or, is it based on emotion?

3. Step out of your comfort zone. Stretching ourselves a little takes courage and requires us to take action. Stepping out of our comfort zone will give us new confidence and hence the courage to reach new heights.

4.Accept failure. Failure will come. It’s a part of life. Use your failures as stepping-stones to success. Learn from failures and move on. Don’t wait to take action because of the fear of failure.

5. Be independent. Learn to stand on your own and have confidence in the decisions that you make. Avoid relying on the support or approval of those around who will prevent you from taking action.

Next-week Habits:

Habits are routine behaviors done on a regular basis. They are recurrent and often unconscious patterns of behavior and are acquired through frequent repetition. Many of these are unconscious as we don’t even realize we are doing them.

“It’s just words”.

Dwight L. Carter Sr.
Writer, Speaker, Author.
www.tellthemyourstory .org
dwightspeaks@gmail.com



Week 4 “WORDS” The Fuel of Your Destiny”

Words!

Sticks and stones will break my bones, but “WORDS” will never hurt me. A phrase repeated on the playground by children when I was growing up. A catchy phrase to deflect the hurt when someone uses words as a weapon. The truth is it’s just not true!

Words have led to horrific disasters, protracted wars, kingdoms, and dynasties have been toppled by the sheer power of words. Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me? They can also heal, strengthen, motivate and encourage. Choose wisely it’s your L.I.F.E.

An excerpt from:  An article by Christopher Antony Meade In History, sometimes, words can kill.

It is one of the stranger things in history how sometimes the very smallest of occurrences can have the most momentous consequences. Words can be said that give offence to the wrong ears, and the result can be the fall of empires, or the wiping away of complete nations. The words that get written down are most frequently the ones that cause the most trouble, as the written word provides a more permanent record than just the utterances that come from the mouth. Sentiments that find their way onto official correspondence are the ones that have the most fatal effects as official declarations can bind governments for good or ill, and are less easy to rescind without loss of national face, or diminution of national honor. 

WORDS ARE POWERFUL, and whether you utter them aloud or to yourself, they create emotion.  They determine how you and others feel. Words create passion – both highs and lows.  Words create dis-ease and disease.  They also provide comfort, and a source for future success.

The power behind selecting your vocabulary with care lies in your ability to manage your language in order to better manage your emotions. When you’re aware that words are powerful and create emotion at all levels, you can then manage your vocabulary to assure that the words you use serve you well. Once you begin to identify words you use that don’t serve you or your future in a positive manner, simply replace them with more constructive and courageous vocabulary.  The words you write or speak to others can leave a huge impact and create a lasting memory–either good or bad–so it’s important to choose them wisely.

  1. “Be mindful when it comes to your words. A string of some that don’t mean much to you, may stick with someone else for a lifetime.” -Rachel Wolchin
  2. “Be careful with your words. Once they are said, they can be only forgiven, not forgotten.” -Unknown
  3. “Words are free. It’s how you use them that may cost you.” -KushandWizdom
  4. “Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” -Rumi
  5. “…But the human tongue is a beast that few can master. It strains constantly to break out of its cage, and if it is not tamed, it will run wild and cause you grief.” -Unknown
  6. “The secret of being boring is to say everything.” -Voltaire
  7. “One kind word can change someone’s entire day.” -Unknown
  8. “Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs.” -Pearl Strachan Hurd
  9. “Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble.” -Yehuda Berg
  10. “My task, which I am trying to achieve is, by the power of the written word, to make you hear, to make you feel–it is, before all, to make you see.” -Joseph Conrad
  11. “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” -Mother Teresa
  12. “The tongue has no bones, but is strong enough to break a heart. So be careful with your words.” -Unknown
  13. “Be careful what you say. You can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there.” -Joel Osteen
  14. “All I need is a sheet of paper and something to write with, and then I can turn the world upside down.” -Friedrich Nietzsche
  15. “Don’t mix bad words with your bad mood. You’ll have many opportunities to change a mood, but you’ll never get the opportunity to replace the words you spoke.” -Unknown
  16. “Don’t ever diminish the power of words. Words move hearts and hearts move limbs.” -Hamza Yusuf
  17. “Words are seeds that do more than blow around. They land in our hearts and not the ground. Be careful what you plant and careful what you say. You might have to eat what you planted one day.” -Unknown
  18. “Words have no power to impress the mind without the exquisite horror of their reality.” -Edgar Allan Poe
  19. “A broken bone can heal, but the wound a word opens can fester forever.” -Jessamyn West
  20. “Good words are worth much, and cost little.” -George Herbert
  21. “Your words have power. Speak words that are kind, loving, positive, uplifting, encouraging, and life-giving.” -Unknown
  22. “Kind words are a creative force, a power that concurs in the building up of all that is good, and energy that showers blessings upon the world.” -Lawrence G. Lovasik
  23. “No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.” -John Keating
  24. “The best word shakers were the ones who understood the true power of words. They were the ones who could climb the highest.” -Markus Zusak
  25. “Speech has power. Words do not fade. What starts out as a sound, ends in a deed.” -Abraham Joshua Herschel
  26. “If we understood the power of our thoughts, we would guard them more closely. If we understood the awesome power of our words, we would prefer silence to almost anything negative. In our thoughts and words, we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths. Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts. We can always replace negative with positive.”

-Betty Eadie PUBLISHED ON: NOV 5, 2015

I would encourage you to read “Your Word is Your Wand Florence Scovel Shinn Published 1928” available on amazon. “So man has power to change an unhappy condition by waving over it the wand of his word.”  Consider that all you do begins with what you think and allow in your mind and how you express those thoughts through words. So far we have talked about thoughts, turning thoughts into words,and Next week Words into

 ACTIONS!

“It’s just words”.
Dwight L. Carter Sr.
Writer, Speaker, Author.
www.tellthemyourstory .org
dwightspeaks@gmail.com

 

 

Week 1″Thoughts the Beginning of a Destiny”

Week 1

                                        “THOUGHTS”

If failure were money I would be a millionaire.

If uncertainty was an educational degree I would have a masters.

If disappointments were rewarded I would be the guest of honor.

If anxiety was a temperature mine would at least be 103. Not enough to kill me but enough to really keep me down.

 

In spite of these ongoing challenges in life I have managed to earn my living over the years in several capacity’s that from the outside some would say I was not necessarily qualified for. I have been granted access in manufacturing facility’s pitching products or services that were beyond my expertise. I have been trusted with and been on dangerous assignments on offshore and land based drilling rigs where a simple mistake or a moment of indecision could be fatal. I have asked for and been granted appointments with business leaders way above my socio, educational and economic level. I have provided advice, and expertise in areas where some would say I was not qualified for. I have been given guidance and direction from individuals who had nothing to gain from me, and yet were compelled to do just that.

The commonality in all was and is my “thinking”. I am convinced I just didn’t realize I wasn’t qualified, and drive and ambition blindly pushed me forward toward what I wanted to be, do, or have. Given some thought could be that true for you as well?

I know it’s not just that simple, to think and it will be. Yet in 1937 Napoleon Hill wrote a bestselling training and motivational book entitled “Think and Grow Rich”. Maxwell Malts in 1960 wrote “Psycho-Cybernetics”. His work defines the mind-body connection as the core in succeeding in attaining personal goals.  My favorite Zig Ziegler wrote “See You at The Top”  “The how to book that gives you a checkup from the neck up to eliminate stinkin thinkin and avoid hardening of the attitudes” in 1982 and many others until his passing in 2012.

All of these men studied, researched, and provided instruction as to the importance of what we think. Eastern philosophies touted the benefits and importance of our thoughts. The Bible in addressing maters of the heart or spirit addresses the challenges of what we think and allow into our minds: Simply put, “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he” Proverbs 23 vs 7.

It has been said we only have control over three things in our life:

The thoughts we think.

The images we visualize.

The actions we take.

I have found that to be true in my life have you?

So what do I do, if how I manage my thoughts and how and what I think is so very important, how do I go about managing what I think?  Or can we?

see you next week!

“It’s just words”.Dwight L. Carter Sr.
Writer, Speaker, Author.
www.tellthemyourstory .org
dwightspeaks@gmail.com

A letter to my Mom. Charice’s story

 

A letter to my Mom “ Rosemary Caldwell”,

I wanted you to see the power of what I call “generational living by example”. What I have learned from you and Dad and what Vilma learned from her Mom and Dad is bearing fruit, “growing”. Sometimes it seems what has been planted is not blooming as expected. Has what’s been sown not taken root, have we failed in our efforts to teach, and direct, by example.

No, it has been gaining strength, just below the surface, until its time. Encouragement, determination, acceptance, direction, and often intervention win out over the challenges of life. An overwhelming garden of beauty, so many wonderful and different flowers “our children and grandchildren” spring up and show their beauty. It is a reminder to me and I wanted to share Charice’s story with you
( there were more than 82 likes and comments to her post. Clearly her heart and actions touched others) .

Vilma and I will never let our garden go unattended. These treasures “children and grandchildren” strengthen my heart and give wings to my purpose in life. Thank you for loving me so I could understand and love those who follow in your steps and ours.
Dwight Sr.

Charice Thoman
11 hrs
I was reminded again, tonight, what it means to be a nurse. To give love and compassion to each individual in their most trying times.

While suctioning the trach (airway) of a young man, only 8 years older than my son, I gently rubbed his arm and reassured him he will be ok, as he was very anxious. After he motioned to me that his airway was clear, he reached out his arm, grabbed my hand and squeezed it as tears rolled down his face. He can’t speak due to the tracheotomy, but ‘lipped’ “Thank you”. Most times it just takes a little extra TLC and comforting to let people not only know, but *feel* you care about them.

Charice, I could not be more proud of you. Your strength and compassion commitment and determination are the cornerstones of our family. Your heart encourages me your actions inspire me. Never stop growing always trust your heart. Love Dad.

“It’s just words”.

Dwight L. Carter Sr.
Writer, Speaker, Author.
dwightspeaks@gmail.com
www.tellthemyourstory .org