Week 3.

Change not my favorite especially as I have progressed in life, which really means “older”. Yet in looking back my life as actually been about change going all the way back to junior high. One would”think” over the last 40 plus years I would have made friends with change and learned to accommodate it in my life and actually have some mastery over and with change.  The truth is, I do, and my purpose is to encourage and challenge you in that regards so let’s begin, by asking a question, what is change?

Webster’s unabridged says;

Change verb (action)

1. Make or become different. To take or use another instead of.
2. The act or instance of making or becoming different.

Author Unknown

Change Is…..

“Change is something that presses us out of our comfort zone. It is destiny-filtered, heart grown, faith built. Change is inequitable; not a respecter of persons. Change is for the better or for the worst, depending on where you view it. Change has an adjustment period which varies on the individual. It is uncomfortable, for changing from one state to the next upsets our control over outcomes. Change has a ripping effect on those who won’t let go. Flex is the key. Even a roller coaster ride can be fun if you know when to lean and create new balance within the change.  Change is needed when all the props and practices of the past no longer work. Change is not comforted by the statement ‘just hang in there’ but with the statement ‘you can make it’. We don’t grow in retreat, but through endurance. Change isn’t fixed by crying, worrying, or mental treadmilling. Change is won by victors not victims; and that choice is ours.”

“DLCSr”…..

Our minds work to make us right! There are thoughts flying around all the time, and some of them land on you and me LOL. You get to choose what you keep and what you discard. If you tell yourself something often enough and long enough it will become your reality. I know you’re thinking I don’t know about this, but think of it this way. When we practice for an event like sports, theater, singing, delivering a church sermon, or public speaking what are we doing. We are teaching our minds, and our thoughts to behave, to “think” in a way that we instruct it to. By providing the information to our thoughts about what we want to do, and how to do it we instruct our actions to participate.  To deliver and perform those thoughts and actions we have rehearsed mentally and now want to display physically.

So what to do. Start by first deciding to live like who you are and what you do make a difference. What you tell yourself about who you are and what you do on a regular basis becomes your reality. Determine to take daily steps to eliminate thoughts that do not serve you, your life goals, and purpose. Write it down, make a list of what you want to do and who you want to be. Decide what you are willing to accept and what you are not. Seek out those people places and things that support your vision and your purpose in life. Most importantly decide to hold yourself accountable for taking those daily, often small steps to change. I promise you will be glad you did.

I have included my original list of those people, places, and things that gave purpose to my thinking and determination to my commitment to change. Why because they matter to me. Those lessons I have learned and experienced over time through failure, and success. They may not be applicable to you but at least a place to start that’s not just random but a road traveled by someone you know, Me.

1. You will dilute your efforts by not having (owning) a predetermined outcome or benefit (goal).
2. Prayer, reading, exercise, nutrition, supplements, sleep, rest, social activities are extremely important to your wellbeing.
3. At peace is powerful, do and complete those things, priorities, events, & things that support and empower you.
4. Express your ideas, frustrations, intentions, and your passion.
5. Learn that as you visualize who you want to (be) you will act as if (do) and overtime your dreams and desires will come true (have).
6. You will become tomorrow what you say and do today.
7. Acknowledge & own your shortcomings.
8. The only control you have over tomorrow is what you do and think today.
9. Use your surroundings as an expression of who you are.
10.  Always acknowledge others, help or intervene as a way of life.
11.  Swearing and anger are a sign of mental, social, educational, and weakness as well as a lack of discipline.
12. Manage those assets entrusted to you with discipline, passion, logic, and heart.
13. Accept today, you will come to a time where you understand the past and have vision for the future.
14. Always reward those who give great service.
15. Your cloths are a representation of you, choose wisely.
16. Checking off your list will free up time, money, and your thinking.

Remember you make a difference and your family and friends need you. Your destiny is made up of many things,people, places, and events. Next we will talk about the power of “WORDS”.

“It’s just words”.
Dwight L. Carter Sr.
Writer, Speaker, Author.
www.tellthemyourstory .org
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